Are Gay Men Shallow

 Some people believe that all gay men are shallow when it comes to finding someone they would like to have a relationship with. But that just isn’t how it is.  Sure most of us prefer a hot, healthy body; heck you can say the same thing about heterosexuals as well. So much so that sometimes it is hard for people that do not fit that criteria to find a partner. It is more of a challenge for gay men because they are in a minority. Even the gay community has its share of shallow types. My belief is that if they don't find you attractive they're not worth losing any sleep over and you can probably do a lot better.

As you get older you find that most guys are not as interested in how you look as opposed to your intelligence and brains. But until that day comes you might just have to take what you can get, or try going to the gym once in awhile. Looks tends to be very important to younger gay men, but it is not the only thing. Not many guys want to date someone that is pot bellied. Personally looks are still an important factor before I would think about about approaching another man, let alone start a relationship with them.  If that makes me shallow, so be it, but I know what I want. 

 Why are a lot of young gay men interested in slim trim athletic types? Guys in general are sexual creatures and want to have sex with good looking guys. This is also true for a lot of young men who are not really interested in a relationship. Of course attractiveness standards vary with different cultures and races, I have a few over weight friends that have no trouble getting dates and having serious relationships. There are many reasons why some people will focus on physical attributes over all others. Some people just behave this way when it comes to picking a potential life partner its just who they are.

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people who don't measure up to my standards as far a dating goes, most of them are nice people but I just would not consider dating them. I have some wonderful friends that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world, and I met most of them online. That's right, as a matter of fact most of the guys I have dated in the past few years I have met through internet dating sites. Now I know what your thinking, its because I can see what they look like, well that might be part of it but its not the real reason, its because most of the guys I meet online are exactly what I'm looking for. Besides, one of the best advantages of online dating is that when you just don't have the time to go out socializing, it's an easy way to meet and interact with people and it's fun.

I am not interested in the old so called ball and chain at this age in my life, but I do enjoy a some what serious relationship, and I would like it to last more than six months. That's where the online dating comes in, you see when you join an online dating site both you and he know where each other stands so there's no surprises. If you hook up and it turns out that you're not really interested in a particular person but you sense their being a little pushy just move on to the next person, no harm done. And if by chance they start to hassle you online, well all you have to do is block them, with online dating sites your real email address phone number and address are never given out so there's no worry about someone harassing you unless you were stupid and gave them your personal contact information already.  The good thing is that most of the men you will meet on dating sites are decent human beings that are looking for the same things in life that your looking for.

For the most part most men do not care so much what you look like, or how you style your hair or whether or not you work out or not. They just want to find someone compatible. They want someone with the same interests, personality traits. Someone who is involved with life, who enjoys activity, who gives back to the community. Someone who's company they can enjoy. Someone who will be there in the morning.

So if your looking for love in all the wrong places then join an online dating site to expand your horizons. There are literally hundreds of gay dating sites just waiting to help you meet someone special. They have a variety of members from many cultures all looking for someone to share their experiences and lives with. So why wait? Get off your tush, get online and check them out. You won't be disappointed. If nothing else you're sure to make some good friends. The link below is to a site that I found helpful when I was first starting out in the internet dating arena.
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/gaydating.php