Showing posts with label dating online. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating online. Show all posts
Friday, 9 March 2012
Why Use an Online Dating Site
You just have to love one of the best aspects of the Internet, and that is Online Dating. If you think about it (I mean, really think about it) it almost makes things too easy. In fact, you can browse profiles, short list the ones who interest you, and even lurk on chat rooms to see how they interact with other people before you even have to make any overtures in direct communication. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favour of – none of that crap. You no longer have to dodge the "just before closing time" desperation moves from people that you would just as soon avoid. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.
One thing that baffles me about online dating, unlike dating, is how brash and open the profiles are. You will find that many people who join an online dating site will give you a full discourse on their personal lives and desires. Many people on online dating sites just do not get the fact that they are trying to market themselves in a positive light. Being up front about fetishes, all the sins of past partners, and health issues come across very negatively, and as such end up working at cross purposes to what you are trying to do, and that is find a partner to date.
There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time. Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. Avoid totally free dating sites. You will find more predators in totally free dating sites because they can contact you with a totally assumed alias. Paid sites are more difficult for predators to use bogus information on, so they usually avoid them
Aside from this normal "Mom" precautions, Online Dating Sites are likely the safest way that you will find to meet new people. You never know what is going to happen when you meet someone for the first time, and that is always a bit of a kick for me. Do they slouch when they walk around? Do they have a nervous tic or annoying habit? I am also always nervous as to how I will measure up in turn. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.
Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. I find this stage of meeting someone the most engaging and the most exciting. You do not know what to think at first, and you are most likely to be changing your opinions about this new acquaintance daily, and perhaps even hourly.
I've actually met more friends online dating than actual dates. Maybe it seems odd, but I've always personally valued a friend with common interests than a date, any day. No matter what you are looking for, you are sure to find someone who meets your laundry list on an online dating site, especially if you are like most people and join more than one.
Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!
If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Dating Online
Friday, 4 November 2011
The Best Gift for a Single Father
This is the time when many women have been thinking about their parents.
In the majority of cases, you have already done your own mothers day or father's day purchases, but is there something more that you can do?
An exploration of your immediate friends would likely find someone of personal interest to you.
Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? Almost every woman has at least one. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.
So would you like to be play Yenta for him and find him a match?
But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?
So why not try a significantly different approach that will achieve the same objective?
A gift that allows him to find and select his own dates!
How about setting him up with a way to look at and communicate with women from home after the kids are asleep!
Something that will help him communicate with adults without having to resort to some paid telephone chat service that you see on late night TV ads!
The answer is as simple as signing him up for an online dating site.
Unfortunately you have heard how unsuccessful many men are at finding someone on an online dating site. What most men do not know though is that the reason they are unsuccessful is that men are just generally really bad at understanding what it is about them that women find attractive!
Enter you!
The ultimate present for your single father friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site. For a personal touch, you create the account for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman weep with joy to read.
After all, only a woman knows how to truly reach the soul of another woman.
So do a favor for your friend.
Spend a few bucks, and a few minutes to set him up with the gift of a lifetime. Help him find a new life partner.
It is a gift that keeps giving forever!
For a way to get started, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites
Saturday, 15 October 2011
Why Online Dating Sites are So Popular
If there's one thing the Internet has introduced us to that we love, it's online dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. We can browse pictures before we even talk to them, centre on the cuties and ignore the rest. No more lame openers to try to avoid, no more embarrassment when it turns out that the person bats for the other team, nothing like that at all. No more worries about that creepy guy in the corner approaching you just before last call. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.
One of the more interesting aspects of online dating is how up front people are when describing themselves on their profiles; information that is often only found out later when dating in the real world. Honesty is good in any relationship, but many people in online dating sites give you their life history in their profiles. They are likely doing themselves a disservice in this regard. Many people on online dating sites just do not get the fact that they are trying to market themselves in a positive light. Being up front about fetishes, all the sins of past partners, and health issues come across very negatively, and as such end up working at cross purposes to what you are trying to do, and that is find a partner to date.
There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time. Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. The same thing your parents would have insisted still works, folks. I am stressing here to meet in a public place the whole time, like a restaurant, a movie theatre, and a crowded street, whatever. If it's appropriate, I'll even bring a friend along and encourage them to do the same. To be doubly sure, stay away from totally free dating sites like OKcupid or Plentyoffish. Not that they are bad in themselves, but if you stick to sites where people have to pay to join, there is less chance of running into a molester. Paying just leaves an easy financial footprint for police to follow, so predators tend to avoid paid sites
Aside from this normal "Mom" precautions, Online Dating Sites are likely the safest way that you will find to meet new people. Meeting people in person for the first time is always a bit of a rush. I mean, you think you know them pretty good by this point, but you can always be surprised. I met someone once with a distinctive body odour that I could not get past. Not hold your nose BO, but rather some subtle scent that may have been genetic or something that they ate regularly. Either way, it was a turn off for me even though I liked them? I'm always super-nervous at first, myself, but it tends to wear off within a few minutes. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.
Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I love the conversation bits. Starting off with a few topics (music, TV, movies etc.) and growing into a full blown conversation frenzy about all kinds of things like work, friends, funny stories etc. Some people worry that if you start off that way, you'll run out of things to talk about – I think it's quite the opposite. When I get started with people, I can't run out of things to talk about...all the e-mails back and forth have done is put ideas in each others heads and told us all we need to know to keep things going.
I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but when we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. No matter what sex, sexuality, race, religion or age range that you may be targeting when you first join up, you will likely find your match on an online dating site.
Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!
If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Dating Online
One of the more interesting aspects of online dating is how up front people are when describing themselves on their profiles; information that is often only found out later when dating in the real world. Honesty is good in any relationship, but many people in online dating sites give you their life history in their profiles. They are likely doing themselves a disservice in this regard. Many people on online dating sites just do not get the fact that they are trying to market themselves in a positive light. Being up front about fetishes, all the sins of past partners, and health issues come across very negatively, and as such end up working at cross purposes to what you are trying to do, and that is find a partner to date.
There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time. Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. The same thing your parents would have insisted still works, folks. I am stressing here to meet in a public place the whole time, like a restaurant, a movie theatre, and a crowded street, whatever. If it's appropriate, I'll even bring a friend along and encourage them to do the same. To be doubly sure, stay away from totally free dating sites like OKcupid or Plentyoffish. Not that they are bad in themselves, but if you stick to sites where people have to pay to join, there is less chance of running into a molester. Paying just leaves an easy financial footprint for police to follow, so predators tend to avoid paid sites
Aside from this normal "Mom" precautions, Online Dating Sites are likely the safest way that you will find to meet new people. Meeting people in person for the first time is always a bit of a rush. I mean, you think you know them pretty good by this point, but you can always be surprised. I met someone once with a distinctive body odour that I could not get past. Not hold your nose BO, but rather some subtle scent that may have been genetic or something that they ate regularly. Either way, it was a turn off for me even though I liked them? I'm always super-nervous at first, myself, but it tends to wear off within a few minutes. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.
Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I love the conversation bits. Starting off with a few topics (music, TV, movies etc.) and growing into a full blown conversation frenzy about all kinds of things like work, friends, funny stories etc. Some people worry that if you start off that way, you'll run out of things to talk about – I think it's quite the opposite. When I get started with people, I can't run out of things to talk about...all the e-mails back and forth have done is put ideas in each others heads and told us all we need to know to keep things going.
I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but when we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. No matter what sex, sexuality, race, religion or age range that you may be targeting when you first join up, you will likely find your match on an online dating site.
Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!
If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Dating Online
Sunday, 21 August 2011
The Gift of a Lifetime for a Single Dad
As the year advances, most women are now into the mode of thinking about parents. Not so much mothers this time, but fathers.
In the majority of cases, you have already done your own mothers day or father's day purchases, but is there something more that you can do?
An exploration of your immediate friends would likely find someone of personal interest to you.
Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? You know the type. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.
Have you already tried to set him up on a blind date but are out of friends to try to match him up with?
But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?
So why not try a significantly different approach that will achieve the same objective?
How about setting him up into a situation where he gets to choose his next blind date!
A gift that gives him an opportunity to communicate with lots of women who may want to be a mother to his children!
A gift that helps him seek company by communicating with women who are not the paid telephone chat-line bimbos that you see in TV advertising!
Seems hard to believe? Well it is as easy as signing him up to an online dating site.
Unfortunately you have heard how unsuccessful many men are at finding someone on an online dating site. What most men do not know though is that the reason they are unsuccessful is that men are just generally really bad at understanding what it is about them that women find attractive!
Enter you!
The best present for your single father friend would be to buy him a membership to an online dating site. To add a personal touch, you set up a profile for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman dash out the door in her hurry to meet this guy.
It takes a woman to understand the needs of, and reach the heart of another woman after all.
Do your friend a favor.
Spend a few bucks, and a few minutes to set him up with the gift of a lifetime. Help him find a new life partner.
Nothing could be a better gift than that – ever!!
For a way to get started, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites
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