What a Banana

I communicated with a guy online that a friend of mine had given my messenger address to, we chatted for about two months. We finally decided to meet for lunch one day as a way to see if anything more would develop. He lived quite some distance from me, but agreed to meet me on my turf. He showed up in an old truck (and I mean old) it looked like it had once belonged to “Jed Clampett”!

I greeted him and things started to go downhill even more quickly. He looked like he just came from a construction site, he was completely unkempt and his clothes were dirty, dusty and smelly. He told me that I would have to drive his truck to the restaurant. When I asked why he told me he was afraid that his foot would go through the floor as it was rotted away and he wasn’t sure if the piece of cardboard and duct tape he had placed there would hold.

We went to a small Chinese buffet for lunch. It was nice and the food was excellent. Things seemed to be looking up a bit, but that was short lived.  After telling me how nice I looked, always nice to hear, he proceeded to tell me that he only had two toes on one foot (like I really gave a shit) and how he had lost them as a child playing with his father's rifle. He then told me that he did not have a job. He had lied to me so I would go out with him. He was about to be evicted from his friends garage of all things. That was where he was living. He then told me he had no job prospects, no money and he knew he was not too attractive. He sobbed and cried hysterically saying if I didn’t want him he was going to shoot off the toes on his other foot. What could I do but just pat his hand and tell him to be patient that there is someone out there for him and that things will work out for him eventually. He did not have enough money to pay for my lunch so we had to go dutch; at which point we went to my apartment.

As we stood at my apartment door he remembered that he had bought a gift for me and that he had left it in the truck. He asked me what my favourite colour was and I said it was yellow. He then ran down the hall in excitement. I was kind of curious about what he would give me that was yellow. I soon found out. He came back with some ripe bananas for crying out loud. I was stunned!. At this point I was informed that since he had too much to drink, he would have to spend the night. Holy cow! I tried to push him out the door. He was very reluctant to leave so I did the only thing I could do. I threw bananas at him until he ran out the door as I slammed it! He continued pounding on my door saying let me in. I told him to take his bananas and go or I would call the police; so he left.

It proved to be a costly date. I have since moved and no longer allow my friends to fix me up.

I am going to try an online dating site. They guarantee anonymity. Hopefully the guys their can come up with something other than just their bananas to keep me happy.

Online Dating Sites

Dating Seeking Love Online

This is a totally unscientific rant based on my own observations of people both in real life and on dating sites. I have observed the online dating industry for some time now, more as a curiosity than as a member.  As a member of several dating sites over the years, I have seen first hand how it is that people interact both successfully and unsuccessfully. I have also discussed dating and relationships extensively with people I have met who are/were in all types and phases of relationships.

So what have I found?
Perhaps not too much that has not already been discussed by others in the past, but perhaps with a different twist on it.

When it comes to people meeting in real life, well, that has been going on for millennia, I have absolutely nothing to add on this topic that has not already been hashed out by writers since the time that man first developed writing. 

When it comes to the Internet, which has only been into the relationships and matchmaking game for the last 17 years or so, perhaps I can give people some insights as to what to expect with online dating sites and how to maximize their chances of success.

So lets start with some popular misconceptions:
Dating Sites Have Fool Proof Matching Formulas
False – The first is that, quite frankly, people lie when they put up their profile information. Garbage in is Garbage out – lets see the brainiacs at the dating sites program around that one.

I Do Not Have To Work As Hard On A Dating Site To Find Someone I Like
False – Once you find someone you are interested in, no matter what the relationship you desire, to get on top of it, you have to spend a lot of time getting to know the person. And at some point you will become comfortable that they are not blowing smoke up your tush. If not, all bets are off and you are back to square one looking for someone else who interests you.

Internet Dating Sites are a Great Place To Find People to Date
True – If you are a person who uses dating to interact with someone that you are interested in; then a dating site is likely to connect you with many more people than you can possibly find via your own means offline.

Dating Sites Are Better At Connecting You To Your Soul Mate.
False – Maybe false is too harsh – it is a definite perhaps, and it depends on your attitude. If you are willing to look outside of your normal comfort zone, you have a better chance finding someone on an internet dating site that you would through your own personal network of friends.


So Why Would I Use An Internet Dating Site Then?Well, they are really good for people who are open to discovering more about what they are really interested in. They are good for people who have not been successful finding their soul mate in real life because quite frankly they are looking for the wrong type of person in the wrong places.  If you approach online dating with an open mind, you will likely be able to interact with many more disparate people then you normally hang out with, and in that process, discover more about what you like in other people, which may just change your mind about who you need in your life to complete you.

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So, open your heart and give online dating a try.

You can start here:
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/onlinedating.php

BDSM

Online BDSM Dating is not for everyone. In case you do not know what it means, BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination, Sado-Masochism. Before you start having crazy thoughts about debilitating sexual beatings where two people are having fistfights in every room, you have to know that BDSM is often not that severe. For the most part, those people who get off on BDSM, seldom actually hurt each other, and it they do, it is usually more accidental than planned. More like jamming your finger rather than hitting it with a hammer. Even the whips that are used are designed not to sting that hard, and will not cut skin or even raise welts. People usually do not hit very hard because the thrill is in the excitement of the act, not the pain. Slapping your tush can actually bring on a more powerful orgasm. On the same note, the bondage side of it is quite real. Usually however it just means being lightly tied to a bed. If you ever go to a sex show, there are often several merchants who sell special beds for bondage, or special sheets with tie-down strips on them to facilitate bondage. The buzz is had by either dominating or being dominated. It is about absolute trust. What you will find is that BDSM can bring you to a sexual peak that you cannot understand until you have experienced it.

If I have convinced you to give BDSM a try, then you should try the following link:

BDSM Dating

MILF Dating Sites

At  one time thought to be taboo, the expression MILF is now not only currently in vogue, but what many men desire. It seems everywhere you look you come across another free MILF site with delicious, attractive sexy sirens. Young men everywhere want to have sex with their buddies Moms and MILF’s often have similar desires of bedding their son's pals.
Things have clearly taken a turn for the better for the voluptuous MILF. Not only can you find them on, online dating sites but, they also have their own  MILF personals sites. Other online dating services and sites realize how hot and desirable a MILF is and have designed a category just for the experienced and tasteful woman, aka a MILF.
It’s nice to know that a woman who’s been there and done that, is seen and wanted by men everywhere. Sadly, at one time, men were too afraid to pursue more mature women, largely because  Hollywood  served up an image that made a beautiful woman nothing more than a house wife in an apron serving dinner.
 I end this article confident that all woman can be hot and appealing at any age, even if she has a family. Thankfully we have MILF dating sites, online personal sites and many other places young hot blooded men can go to find a sensuous, sultry MILF.
If you are looking for other sites than those specializing in MILF Dating, then these are the links for you:

Personals   

Adult Friend Finder   

Senior Dating

Gay Personals       

Lesbian Dating

Swingers    

Cheating   

Top Ten Dating

Top 100 Dating Sites



If this article has peaked your interest then you should really visit the link below:
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/MILFdating.php

Why Use an Online Dating Site

You just have to love one of the best aspects of the Internet, and that is Online Dating. If you think about it (I mean, really think about it) it almost makes things too easy. In fact, you can browse profiles, short list the ones who interest you, and even lurk on chat rooms to see how they interact with other people before you even have to make any overtures in direct communication. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favour of – none of that crap. You no longer have to dodge the "just before closing time" desperation moves from people that you would just as soon avoid. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that baffles me about online dating, unlike dating, is how brash and open the profiles are. You will find that many people who join an online dating site will give you a full discourse on their personal lives and desires. Many people on online dating sites just do not get the fact that they are trying to market themselves in a positive light. Being up front about fetishes, all the sins of past partners, and health issues come across very negatively, and as such end up working at cross purposes to what you are trying to do, and that is find a partner to date.

There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time.  Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. Avoid totally free dating sites. You will find more predators in totally free dating sites because they can contact you with a totally assumed alias. Paid sites are more difficult for predators to use bogus information on, so they usually avoid them

Aside from this normal "Mom" precautions, Online Dating Sites are likely the safest way that you will find to meet new people. You never know what is going to happen when you meet someone for the first time, and that is always a bit of a kick for me. Do they slouch when they walk around? Do they have a nervous tic or annoying habit? I am also always nervous as to how I will measure up in turn. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.

Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. I find this stage of meeting someone the most engaging and the most exciting. You do not know what to think at first, and you are most likely to be changing your opinions about this new acquaintance daily, and perhaps even hourly.

I've actually met more friends online dating than actual dates. Maybe it seems odd, but I've always personally valued a friend with common interests than a date, any day. No matter what you are looking for, you are sure to find someone who meets your laundry list on an online dating site, especially if you are like most people and join more than one.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:

Dating Online

Free Online Dating

There are thousands of dating sites on the Internet, ranging from excellent to scams. In reality, there are only a double handful of legitimate large scale dating sites. Most of them are just not worth the effort to join. The greater majority of the legitimate dating sites are not free. They will let you post your profile for free, and they may let you do some minimal things each day, but you will find it a very unsatisfactory experience unless you upgrade to paying status.

In general, you can see other people, but you will have to pay to contact them. But even if you do end up paying to contact someone, who ends up being the love of your life, that would likely be a pretty good deal. If you are interested in online dating, follow the link below and it will take you to a site that lists the best sites on the internet.


Dating Sites

Sex In The Clitty – Female Orgasms

A few generations ago, many adult women never experienced and orgasm. In fact, many did not even know what an orgasm was.  Generations of women were raised with a lack of sex education, and often made to believe that sex was a painful wifely duty. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is similar to a man having an erectile disfunction.

So how can we change this, especially since today's women desire orgasms. Well let's begin by exploring what a female orgasm really is.  An orgasm in women is similar to what men experience-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, twitchy sensation that extends throughout the body.  The rhythmic pulsations take place within the pelvic area as well as the walls of the vagina. One key difference is that women don't have to have a recovery period, and may have many more orgasms with ongoing coital stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the help of a skilled lover, most women can have multiple orgasms if they want.

Unlike men who can ejaculate quite quickly if they are being masturbated---women need the right conditions. For instance:

1) They need to feel wanted, and appreciated a romantic atmosphere
3) A person they click with
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men need to know that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm.  The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a bit of a chore to find: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side.  Firm pressure is needed to find the G spot in its non-stimulated state.  It feels like a spongy area about the size of a small bean. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman.  When properly manipulated, the G spot will result in a vaginal orgasm.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In conclusion, sex with orgasms are something very sensual that can provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The following checklist can help both of you have orgasms regularly:

1) Women like affection---use your hands, and or mouth to caress her body. Do not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment so that sex does not get stale
10) Don't make demands: this could spoil the moment

Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.

If you are an sexually unhappy woman – persuade your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!

Good Luck!

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The Best Gift for a Single Father

This is the time when many women have been thinking about their parents.

In the majority of cases, you have already done your own mothers day or father's day purchases, but is there something more that you can do? 

An exploration of your immediate friends would likely find someone of personal interest to you.

Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? Almost every woman has at least one. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.

So would you like to be play Yenta for him and find him a match?

But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?

So why not try a significantly different approach that will achieve the same objective?

A gift that allows him to find and select his own dates!
How about setting him up with a way to look at and communicate with women from home after the kids are asleep!
Something that will help him communicate with adults without having to resort to some paid telephone chat service that you see on late night TV ads!

The answer is as simple as signing him up for an online dating site.

Unfortunately you have heard how unsuccessful many men are at finding someone on an online dating site. What most men do not know though is that the reason they are unsuccessful is that men are just generally really bad at understanding what it is about them that women find attractive!

Enter you!

The ultimate present for your single father friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site.  For a personal touch, you create the account for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman weep with joy to read.

After all, only a woman knows how to truly reach the soul of another woman.

So do a favor for your friend.

Spend a few bucks, and a few minutes to set him up with the gift of a lifetime. Help him find a new life partner.

It is a gift that keeps giving forever!

For a way to get started, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites

Why Online Dating Sites are So Popular

If there's one thing the Internet has introduced us to that we love, it's online dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. We can browse pictures before we even talk to them, centre on the cuties and ignore the rest. No more lame openers to try to avoid, no more embarrassment when it turns out that the person bats for the other team, nothing like that at all. No more worries about that creepy guy in the corner approaching you just before last call. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One of the more interesting aspects of online dating is how up front people are when describing themselves on their profiles; information that is often only found out later when dating in the real world. Honesty is good in any relationship, but many people in online dating sites give you their life history in their profiles. They are likely doing themselves a disservice in this regard. Many people on online dating sites just do not get the fact that they are trying to market themselves in a positive light. Being up front about fetishes, all the sins of past partners, and health issues come across very negatively, and as such end up working at cross purposes to what you are trying to do, and that is find a partner to date.

There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time.  Thousands of people meet through dating sites every day with no issues, but it is still best to take precautions. Take your cell phone and leave it on. Put 911 on speed dial. Tell friends and family where you will be and for what reason. Make sure you meet in a public place, and do not go anywhere alone with them the first time out. Best to be just meeting over a coffee rather than for a full blown date the first time you get together with someone. The same thing your parents would have insisted still works, folks. I am stressing here to meet in a public place the whole time, like a restaurant, a movie theatre, and a crowded street, whatever. If it's appropriate, I'll even bring a friend along and encourage them to do the same. To be doubly sure, stay away from totally free dating sites like OKcupid or Plentyoffish. Not that they are bad in themselves, but if you stick to sites where people have to pay to join, there is less chance of running into a molester. Paying just leaves an easy financial footprint for police to follow, so predators tend to avoid paid sites

Aside from this normal "Mom" precautions, Online Dating Sites are likely the safest way that you will find to meet new people. Meeting people in person for the first time is always a bit of a rush. I mean, you think you know them pretty good by this point, but you can always be surprised. I met someone once with a distinctive body odour that I could not get past. Not hold your nose BO, but rather some subtle scent that may have been genetic or something that they ate regularly. Either way, it was a turn off for me even though I liked them? I'm always super-nervous at first, myself, but it tends to wear off within a few minutes. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.

Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I love the conversation bits. Starting off with a few topics (music, TV, movies etc.) and growing into a full blown conversation frenzy about all kinds of things like work, friends, funny stories etc. Some people worry that if you start off that way, you'll run out of things to talk about – I think it's quite the opposite. When I get started with people, I can't run out of things to talk about...all the e-mails back and forth have done is put ideas in each others heads and told us all we need to know to keep things going.

I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but when we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. No matter what sex, sexuality, race, religion or age range that you may be targeting when you first join up, you will likely find your match on an online dating site.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Dating Online

Take Your Bananas And Go

I sort of fell into communicating with a guy online for a couple of months because my best friend gave him my messenger address. We finally decided to meet for lunch one day as a way to see if anything more would develop. He lived quite some distance from me, but agreed to meet me on my turf. He showed up in an old truck (and I mean old) it looked like it had once belonged to “Jed Clampett”!

I greeted him and things started to go downhill even more quickly. He was rather dusty and had grease on his hands, and apologized saying that the truck had broken down on the way over. He insisted that I drive, and when I got in and saw a gaping hole in the passenger floor boards, I understood why.

We decided to go to an Chinese buffet. It was nice and the food was quite tasty. My assumption that things were getting better were unfortunately short lived.  After telling me how nice I looked, always nice to hear, he proceeded to tell me that he only had two toes on one foot (like I really gave a shit) and how he had lost them as a child playing with his father's rifle. He said that he had told me that he had a job so that I would not think him a loser. He was about to be evicted from his friends garage of all things. That was where he was living. Then this loser started to blubber that he had nothing. No job, no prospects and he knew that he was not good looking. He was so annoying it was pathetic. Rather than beat him about the head and shoulders with a baseball bat like I desperately wanted to, I just bit my tongue and consoled him. I said that he just had to be patient and the right one would come along. It just would not be me. He paid for lunch and then he took me back to my apartment.

He told me he had a gift for me in the truck and said he hoped that yellow was my favorite color. I told him it was and he seemed pleased as he raced away. I wondered what the heck he could have for me that was yellow, and I soon found out. He returned a few minutes later with some over-ripe bananas. I didn't know weather to laugh or cry so I did neither. Instead I just stood there in awe. At this point I was informed that since he had too much to drink, he would have to spend the night. I told him (over my dead body) and tried to push him out the door. He was very reluctant to leave so I did the only thing I could do. I attacked him with my bananas, hurling them at him until he backed up into the hall, then I slammed the door! He pounded on the door for me to let him in but I would not budge. I told him to take his bananas and go or I would call the police; so he left.

It was the most expensive date I have ever been on. I felt compelled to move, and change my messenger id and email address. My friends know better than to give out my information to casual acquaintances anymore.

I am going to try an online dating site. They guarantee anonymity. Hopefully the guys their can come up with something other than just their bananas to keep me happy.

Online Dating Sites

How to Find Love Online

This is a totally unscientific rant based on my own observations of people both in real life and on dating sites. By direct observation, I have seen dozens of people succeed in finding a solid life partner using online dating sites, but I have also seen many more fail.  As a member of several dating sites over the years, I have seen first hand how it is that people interact both successfully and unsuccessfully. I have also tapped into my own extensive circle of friends and acquaintances in this same time period and also witnessed most aspects of the offline dating world as well.

So what have I found?
Perhaps not too much that has not already been discussed by others in the past, but perhaps with a different twist on it.

When it comes to people meeting in real life, well, that has been going on for millennium, I have absolutely nothing to add on this topic that has not already been hashed out by writers since the time that man first developed writing. 

Internet dating, which is a higher tech offshoot of the matchmaking services that have been around for hundreds of years, is a relatively new beast, and as such, there are some insights that can be passed on that most people have yet to learn.

So lets start with some popular misconceptions:
Dating Sites Have Fool Proof Matching Formulas
False – No matter how hard dating sites work at perfecting their compatibility formulas, they are handicapped by customers who lie about themselves, and customers who really have no idea what it is they are looking for. When it comes to relationships, people are much better at saying what they do not want than what they do want.

It Is Less Work To Find My Match On a Dating Site
False – Once you find someone you are interested in, no matter what the relationship you desire, to get on top of it, you have to spend a lot of time getting to know the person. And at some point you will become comfortable that they are not blowing smoke up your tush. If not, all bets are off and you are back to square one looking for someone else who interests you.

Internet Dating Sites are a Great Place To Find People to Date
True – There is just so many people and so much selection on dating sites, it is almost a walk in the park to find someone to date (for a walk in the park of course).

Internet Dating Sites Are More Likely To Find My Soul Mate.
False – Maybe false is too harsh – it is a definite perhaps, and it depends on your attitude. If you are willing to look outside of your normal comfort zone, you have a better chance finding someone on an internet dating site that you would through your own personal network of friends.


So What Good Are Dating Sites Anyway-well, they are really good for people who are open to discovering more about what they are really interested in. They are good for people who have not been successful finding their soul mate in real life because quite frankly they are looking for the wrong type of person in the wrong places.  If you approach online dating with an open mind, you will likely be able to interact with many more disparate people then you normally hang out with, and in that process, discover more about what you like in other people, which may just change your mind about who you need in your life to complete you.

You should approach using a dating site as you would approach using any new tool that can improve your productivity. It is possible for someone to use a tool incorrectly and end up being hurt. It is possible to be sloppy how you use a tool and end up getting inferior results (don't blame the tool). If you take the time to learn the advantages and disadvantages of the tool, and employ that tool correctly, then you have the optimal chance of finding your perfect match.

So, open your heart and give online dating a try.

You can start here:
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/onlinedating.php

Dating Date from Hell

A Date? Or Was It The Date From Hell!

Sonia Varaschin died at the hands of someone that she met on plentyoffish.com.

This tragedy near Orangeville Canada highlights the risks and dangers of meeting someone online. Even though the killer left a trail of information on Sonia's computer, it was difficult for police to delve through. This is mainly do to the anonymous nature of dating sites, and the ability of stalkers to totally hide on totally free dating sites. In any event, none of this was any help to Sonia herself.

In choosing a free dating site like plentyoffish.com, the victim unwittingly maximized her risks. Let me qualify this statement.
I am not singling out plentyoffish.com, because other free online dating sites like OKcupid.com fall in the same camp.  These are not the only sites, but are two of the largest sites in this camp. Many of these sites are not even cognizant of the increased risk that they expose their customers to.

The problem here is that any site that allows two people to communicate in any way for free is dangerous. Here is why.

There are a lot of freaks and perverts out there. These range from well intentioned bumblers to axe murderers. There is a very real chance that someone who appears to be nice in a chat room is not so wonderful in real life, and the most dangerous ones are very clever at hiding their anti-social behavior. The epitome of dangerous people are axe murdering predators. They will take your life without a second thought.

Free dating sites are not the only sites where you can expose yourself to danger.
Other social networking sites like facebook also have this problem. You may think that it is safe to accept a friend request from the friend of a friend – after all you trust your friends. But in fact, your friend may very well be the type of person who always accepts friend requests without actually knowing the person. You are not safe unless you know which of your friends would never accept friend requests from unknown people.

Social networking sites that require some form of payment before allowing communication are inherently safer. Sexual predators stay clear of pay sites because the money is too easy to trace back to them.  On the other hand, it only takes them a small amount of time to set up a string of bogus email account on yahoo ,then set up a fake email account on GMail ,then erase the initial yahoo account.  At that point you can now go into the GMail account and point the base email account to some fictitious email account on AOL, and you have pretty much left a tough trail for police to track.  The really smart stalkers will use a free email account trail crossing providers based in several different countries so that police have to do tons of paperwork to get access to the records.  Once the stalker has a largely untraceable email account on a free service like GMail, then they are free to use it to join all the free communication sites out there.  If they couple this with a disposable cell phone, you are now fully communicating with someone who looks legit, but is untraceable by anyone. They are free to do what they please with you..

So what can be done about it?
For starters, stay clear of free dating sites. They  increase your exposure to danger to unacceptable levels.
These next tips are just common sense details:
1) Make sure that you talk online a long time before committing to meeting the person in real life. Keep all details about who you really are or where you live private until you know them better.
2) At the point where you want to hear their voice, use an untraceable cell phone or myprivateline.com.
3) Before you commit your heart, make sure you are doing due diligence on this person. Be careful with what you say, and listen carefully to what is said. Consider recording the call so you can take notes after.  Look for changes in the lines that they string you. Ask for the same information a few different ways over the course of your initial acquaintance and make sure the answers are consistent. Inconsistent answers are all danger signals. Stalkers usually have more than one potential victim that they are stringing along, and will often confuse details in what they tell each mark.
4) Get recent pictures of them. How can you be sure they are recent? Well to be really sure, get them to take a close-up picture of themselves holding up today's paper.
5) Be upfront and tell them that you are being careful. If they are honest and aboveboard, then they will not take offence and will comply. You must also be willing to do the same. Consider using the public library and use a current newspaper from a different town to keep your location secret.
6) Your first date should be short, a coffee shop rather than a bar, and be in the daytime and short. Do not go home with him or let him take you home. Be upfront and tell him that you have told your friends where you are.
7) Use your camera phone to take a picture of your date and send it to a friend while you are on the date, just in case something happens. If they have a problem with you doing this, then get out yesterday!

Use your head before you let yourself lose your heart.

Now for a good resource to find sites where men have to pay to contact you, check out the following link:

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The Gift of a Lifetime for a Single Dad

As the year advances, most women are now into the mode of thinking about parents. Not so much mothers this time, but fathers.

In the majority of cases, you have already done your own mothers day or father's day purchases, but is there something more that you can do? 

An exploration of your immediate friends would likely find someone of personal interest to you.

Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? You know the type. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.

Have you already tried to set him up on a blind date but are out of friends to try to match him up with?

But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?

So why not try a significantly different approach that will achieve the same objective?

How about setting him up into a situation where he gets to choose his next blind date!
A gift that gives him an opportunity to communicate with lots of women who may want to be a mother to his children!
A gift that helps him seek company by communicating with women who are not the paid telephone chat-line bimbos that you see in TV advertising!

Seems hard to believe? Well it is as easy as signing him up to an online dating site.

Unfortunately you have heard how unsuccessful many men are at finding someone on an online dating site. What most men do not know though is that the reason they are unsuccessful is that men are just generally really bad at understanding what it is about them that women find attractive!

Enter you!

The best present for your single father friend would be to buy him a membership to an online dating site.  To add a personal touch, you set up a profile for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman dash out the door in her hurry to meet this guy.

It takes a woman to understand the needs of, and reach the heart of another woman after all.

Do your friend a favor.

Spend a few bucks, and a few minutes to set him up with the gift of a lifetime. Help him find a new life partner.

Nothing could be a better gift than that – ever!!

For a way to get started, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:

Online Dating Sites

Sex Appeal And the Single Girl

Can you define sex appeal? Most dictionaries describe it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”sexually interesting or exciting.” You may think that they are the same, but in fact they are not. Lets examine this further.

If a man sees  a attractive woman someplace wearing a short skirt, and low cut top to show off her cleavage.  He may acknowledge to himself that she is hot and sexy, but does that mean she has sex appeal? While the two are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what does it take for more focused attention?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy is a requirement for and immediate grab at attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is just a quick attention getter, and will generally never amount to more than that.  Someone who dresses to make herself feel good, and grab attention can be sexy, but it will never lead to more persistence of notice, and that is the difference here. Sexy is only the top of the muffin.

Sex appeal sex appeal is more than just clothes and a hot body, it is a product of having self confidence, and your value if yourself. When a person has this total package they catch the eye of surrounding people. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will look great in rags. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always humorous, intelligent and in touch with their sexuality and sensuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual  who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. This joy of life is a cornerstone of sex appeal.

Sex appeal stands up, stands out and is visible. Women Ladies with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  do not let one bad experience affect their relationships with others. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal generally emanates from positive outgoing people never run down, but rather talk up other people. All of this flows from them being the sensual and loving people that they are.

Hopefully you can now see the differences. It pretty much boils down to this-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about personal development, self image and poise. Guys will always respond to sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get into his head, and past the eyes.

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College Dating

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not completely around the bend or anything like that, but please stop telling me to enjoy being single because “one day” I might find myself with a wife, youngsters and a condo, being single is beginning to wear on me. I have been single for all my life, single is my closest confidant,  I have had more relationship problem's than relationships, I want to have a relationship with someone other than my dog, college dating stinks, for me anyway. Why does it appear like everyone around me is winning at the game of love except me, Losing in love has become a habit that is getting harder and harder to break.

I once asked someone close to me (no not my gold fish), but rather a college friend how she does it, I told her that when I go to get together s, other women seem to have no problem connecting with guys, but no matter who I take a shine to, I am constantly outmaneuvered by other women who walk away with the trophy. Her answer was to ask me what I would do if someone tried to line jump in front of me. I replied I would elbow them and tell then to get in line and wait their turn like everyone else. She said excellent, the next time some girl tries to take your man just give her a shove, slide up to the hot dude of your dreams and make him slobber all over you. Maybe I should have asked my cat.

College guys mystify me, I'm a smart attractive young woman but they act like I am a wart on their butts sometimes. The ones I do go out with are only interested in the horizontal mambo, for many college guys you have to shell out or get out, so I'd rather get out.

But its not just females that have problems, there are college guys who have problems with coeds. It seems if you won't go to bed with them they want nothing to do with you, its too bad because most people have more to offer than just sex. The boys tell me that some of the girls expect them have sex with them off the get go and if they  want to wait a bit she trashes them to her friends. These are nice guys that respect women and don't just think of them as an easy lay, why can't these girls see that these men will not accept this sort of treatment.

However there might be a silver lining to this cloud, several of the guys and girls have decided to join several of the more successful online college dating sites. They have heard some amazing stories from other college students who met their dream date on one of the college dating sites. They said the people on these sites don't care how much money you have and they are interesting to talk to and any sex is just part of the total package, they're decent people, and college students like us. They have a life plan that includes more than just getting through the current semester. They are interested in finding that certain person and one day settling down. My best friend met his future wife on an online college dating site, I had no idea at the time what he was up to or how they found each other.

My friends have been so successful that I have decided to try it for myself.  My friends told me about this site they found that lists and ranks a bunch of online dating sites, and they have an entire page on just college dating sites. They said that this is where they started to look for college dating sites to join, and they have nothing but good things to say about the way the site recommends and rates the various college dating sites. Who knows maybe I'll finally find someone who is caring and decent. If you are in college or looking to date someone  who is in college why don't you follow this link:

Dating College Women

How To Stimulate an Orgasm in Women

Before 1960, most adult females never experienced and orgasm.  In actuality, a lot of them did not understand what an orgasm was.  Most women were reared with a lack of sex education, and usually believed that sex had to be painful, thus ensuring that the were not receptive to any form of pleasure. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Orgasms don’t come easily for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since today's women want orgasms. Lets first define the physiology of a female orgasm.  An orgasm in women is not overly different from that in men-there is a peak of sexual excitement, marking a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a pulsing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body.  Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic muscles as well as the walls of the vagina. Another difference here is that women don't experience a refractory period, and will usually be able to have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the right partner, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:

1) Women need to feel wanted, and appreciated A romantic atmosphere
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Comfortable surroundings
5) A partner that knows how to stimulate the clitoris

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men should understand that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm.  The clitoris is a woman's main sexual pleasure point and can be stimulated orally or with the fingers. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and leads to pulsations within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located on the upper wall of the vagina about the length of your index finger in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and near the neck of the bladder where it connects with the urethra.  Firm pressure is needed to find the G spot in its non-stimulated state.  It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The exact size and location can vary slightly from female to female.  A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In summary, sex is a wonderful thing that should provide both partners with incredible feelings of pleasure. The following can help your lady companion have orgasms regularly:

1) 2)Do not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) If she is dry – the most likely case at the beginning of sexual intercourse, use your own natural lubrication, or else use a lubricant like KY Jelly – if she is dry, sex will be painful and cause lasting damage.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Do not push to try new things – experimentation must be mutual or else it will cause you to lose the moment

All men, can use this as a guide to helping your women have a more pleasurable experience, and helping her achieve many orgasms.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!

Good Luck!


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