A few generations ago, many adult women never experienced and orgasm. In fact, many did not even know what an orgasm was. Generations of women were raised with a lack of sex education, and often made to believe that sex was a painful wifely duty. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is similar to a man having an erectile disfunction.
So how can we change this, especially since today's women desire orgasms. Well let's begin by exploring what a female orgasm really is. An orgasm in women is similar to what men experience-there is a peak of sexual excitement, in a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, twitchy sensation that extends throughout the body. The rhythmic pulsations take place within the pelvic area as well as the walls of the vagina. One key difference is that women don't have to have a recovery period, and may have many more orgasms with ongoing coital stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm. This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.
With the help of a skilled lover, most women can have multiple orgasms if they want.
Unlike men who can ejaculate quite quickly if they are being masturbated---women need the right conditions. For instance:
1) They need to feel wanted, and appreciated a romantic atmosphere
3) A person they click with
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy
You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.
Men need to know that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is a bit of a chore to find: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side. Firm pressure is needed to find the G spot in its non-stimulated state. It feels like a spongy area about the size of a small bean. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman. When properly manipulated, the G spot will result in a vaginal orgasm.
Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:
In conclusion, sex with orgasms are something very sensual that can provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The following checklist can help both of you have orgasms regularly:
1) Women like affection---use your hands, and or mouth to caress her body. Do not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment so that sex does not get stale
10) Don't make demands: this could spoil the moment
Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.
If you are an sexually unhappy woman – persuade your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!
Good Luck!
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So the University of British Columbia (that’s in Canada folks), did a study of just over 1000 people divided evenly between men and women of all ages, and found some rather surprising results. (American Psychological Association Journal "Emotion")
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The study had the people look at pictures of people of the opposite sex who had neutral expressions, looked happy, looked shameful, looked proud, or looked brooding. They then rated the attractiveness of each from one to nine.
Women liked a proud physical expression on a man, and younger women were second most turned on to shameful expressions with sagging shoulders, etc.. For some reason, all age groups were not that attracted to pictures of men who were happy.
Likely women are attracted to successful looking guys because of the security that they represent. With the nurturing nature of most women there is a natural tendency to look for a good provider to hook up with. Brooding bad boys are also quite attractive to younger women because in their hearts, they know they are brooding because they have not found the right woman and assume they will help them overcome that fault.
Because we are creatures of millions of years of evolution with just a couple of thousand years of social skills layered on, women are instinctively attracted to good hunters (successful men) who can keep them and their children fed. Bad ass dudes would be able to provide them protection.
Men dig fun happy women and find proud ladies a turn off. The happiness makes sense, because most guys put up with crap on the job all day and just do not want to face it at night as well.
Women with a shameful expression were also somewhat attractive to men. The shame thing might just be a hint that you have a bit of bad girl in you so they are curious to see just how bad you are.
Taken back to cave man terms, a man spends all his days hunting. He has to keep quiet. He is miserable most of the time and he is full of fly bites. Many days he returns empty handed and is worried about finding more food before they starve. When he gets back to the cave, the last thing he wants to hear about is that there are only berries for supper, what a mess the kids made in the cave and the headache that she has from all their screaming and yelling. And he never wants to hear that it is a good thing she is such a good berry picker because Blurg's lazy wife did not get any berries so he will have no supper.
So what can we derive from this study:
1) For Guys, you need to be a successful looking hard-ass dude with glitter and attitude.
2) For Women, acting like you are better than everyone else, running down other people, or complaining about work all the time are all sure ways to send any guy packing. You need to be seen as a smiling, fun loving optimist, eager to look for the silver lining around any grey clouds in your life, and be willing to try new things. If you cannot pull of the happy face all the time, then the other approach would be to act like you were just caught with your pants down in church. If you look embarrassed or shameful about something, then men think you likely have something to be embarrassed about. They will likely stick around to find out if you can both participate in other potentially "embarrassing" encounters.
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Can you define sex appeal? Most dictionaries describe it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”sexually interesting or exciting.” You may think that they are the same, but in fact they are not. Lets examine this further.
If a man sees a attractive woman someplace wearing a short skirt, and low cut top to show off her cleavage. He may acknowledge to himself that she is hot and sexy, but does that mean she has sex appeal? While the two are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what does it take for more focused attention?
Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy is a requirement for and immediate grab at attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is just a quick attention getter, and will generally never amount to more than that. Someone who dresses to make herself feel good, and grab attention can be sexy, but it will never lead to more persistence of notice, and that is the difference here. Sexy is only the top of the muffin.
Sex appeal sex appeal is more than just clothes and a hot body, it is a product of having self confidence, and your value if yourself. When a person has this total package they catch the eye of surrounding people. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will look great in rags. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always humorous, intelligent and in touch with their sexuality and sensuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. This joy of life is a cornerstone of sex appeal.
Sex appeal stands up, stands out and is visible. Women Ladies with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they do not let one bad experience affect their relationships with others. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal generally emanates from positive outgoing people never run down, but rather talk up other people. All of this flows from them being the sensual and loving people that they are.
Hopefully you can now see the differences. It pretty much boils down to this-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others, it will emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about personal development, self image and poise. Guys will always respond to sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get into his head, and past the eyes.
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Before 1960, most adult females never experienced and orgasm. In actuality, a lot of them did not understand what an orgasm was. Most women were reared with a lack of sex education, and usually believed that sex had to be painful, thus ensuring that the were not receptive to any form of pleasure. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and only one in ten always orgasm. Orgasms don’t come easily for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.
Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since today's women want orgasms. Lets first define the physiology of a female orgasm. An orgasm in women is not overly different from that in men-there is a peak of sexual excitement, marking a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a pulsing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body. Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic muscles as well as the walls of the vagina. Another difference here is that women don't experience a refractory period, and will usually be able to have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no ejaculation of fluid during orgasm. This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.
With the right partner, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.
Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:
1) Women need to feel wanted, and appreciated A romantic atmosphere
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Comfortable surroundings
5) A partner that knows how to stimulate the clitoris
You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.
Men should understand that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm. The clitoris is a woman's main sexual pleasure point and can be stimulated orally or with the fingers. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and leads to pulsations within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located on the upper wall of the vagina about the length of your index finger in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and near the neck of the bladder where it connects with the urethra. Firm pressure is needed to find the G spot in its non-stimulated state. It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The exact size and location can vary slightly from female to female. A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.
Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:
In summary, sex is a wonderful thing that should provide both partners with incredible feelings of pleasure. The following can help your lady companion have orgasms regularly:
1) 2)Do not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) If she is dry – the most likely case at the beginning of sexual intercourse, use your own natural lubrication, or else use a lubricant like KY Jelly – if she is dry, sex will be painful and cause lasting damage.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Do not push to try new things – experimentation must be mutual or else it will cause you to lose the moment
All men, can use this as a guide to helping your women have a more pleasurable experience, and helping her achieve many orgasms.
If you are an unsatisfied woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!
Good Luck!
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